It's been a few months since the beginning of stay-at-home orders and Chicago is extended until the beginning of June, but there is still not much promise for what's to come this summer. To the amount of areas already opening up, I can feel that people are beginning to become more complacent with the order, but might not realize the severity of returning to our "normal habits" quite yet. However, I think a lot of people are still doing things to cope with the uncertainty and are trying to distract themselves with things they necessarily didn't have time for. We've started gardening, trying new bread recipes, or playing Animal Crossing from dawn to dusk and I have realized that we've lost a fundamental piece of what life should be about—happiness.
Over the past couple of months, I've really come to terms with what I'm doing and why I'm doing it. Maybe it's because I'm a bit existential, although I'm sure a lot more people are feeling the same way. I've been reflecting on the reasons I chose the path I chose: emotionally, in school, in my social life, or for my career goals. It seems as if everything has paused, but at the same time, going at lightening speed. To avoid feeling this weight of overwhelm and a bit of confusion, I've been monitoring my happy habits and all of the things that make me feel good. I think the one thing that we can do is take everyday with upmost positivity, even if it seems so hard to roll out of bed each morning.
Give Yourself Time...
There are high hopes that everything might even itself out and we might eventually go back to "normal," but with the time being, there's nothing promised, every day seems like the same, and I understand that the whole wake up, eat breakfast, get to work, exercise, and do it all over again is not the normal for everybody.
Setting an alarm has been my saving grace, even if it's one to three alarms that I need to actually get me going. Find a way to make yourself get out of bed because you and I both know that we would sleep in every day if we could. I have fallen in the routine of waking up, checking my phone, scrolling through unimportant articles and emails, and being later than I expected with no time to get the day started. So, whether that be making a cup of coffee, making your bed, or brushing your teeth, get up and get your day started! You will feel more motivated to get things done.
Do One Thing for Yourself Everyday...
My focus lately has been set mainly on electronics: getting work done, answering emails, making to-do lists, watching lectures, or hosting Zoom calls. I live a pretty busy, but mundane life throughout the week and I'm always trying to tackle assignments and to-do lists ahead of time, but that leaves me drained and unmotivated to keep going. Sometimes uninspired, I find that retreating to a playlist, my Reese Witherspoon Hello Sunshine book, a little puppy play time, or doing my nails allows me to reset and recharge. When I feel the most overwhelmed, I find that escaping for a bit does the trick.
Stay on Top of Things...
I am all about getting on top of my work ahead of time as a little "thank you to my future self". I know that working one thing at a time is usually the best way to put full focus into things. If I can set myself up for success and not create a pile of things to get done during the week, I'll focus on big assignments over the weekend and feel better set knowing that I got a start on it ahead of time. Forward planning has been one of my most well-known traits because I like structure and planning out manageable tasks.
Get Some Fresh Air...
Working from home can feel stifling, a bit claustrophobic, and one thing is for sure, I always keep my windows open. Air filtration is key and even better being outside and staying active has helped me balance daily tasks. Daily dog walking, reading outside, or backyard tanning has given me a sufficient amount of vitamin D, but sometimes I wish we lived near nature preserves and more scenic areas. Finding a time to get a breath of fresh air and some sunlight make me feel less like a hermit crab.
Mind Your Thoughts...
Sometimes I wake up with a really bad mood. I mean we all have moods, and lately I've been kicking myself for feeling bad mentally because there are so many other things I could be putting my energy towards than negative thought bubbles. Even if I just manipulate my thoughts in a way that makes things more positive, for example, telling myself I got enough sleep, or saying one thing I love about myself, or simply shutting off my phone puts it in perspective. Making daily tasks more like fun opportunities or looking forward to that night's online yoga session has changed the way I think for the better.
Stay in Touch...
I've read this before, but this time is crucial for checking in with loved ones and those you have not talked to in awhile. There's no excuse not to meet for coffee or go on that brunch you previously planned. My best friends and I have made time to chat and catch up, which has been the most refreshing and socially exciting. Even rekindling friendships with motivational messages goes a long way and it makes my heart warm to know that I have someone else to confide in. Even if it means finding a mentor or meeting up with someone from an online class over Zoom, having some human interaction other than your family can keep you from feeling isolated.
I came to realize that all of these habits have just become daily parts of my routine now and I think they are all pretty manageable. Finding one happy habit a day and sticking to it will help you with your daily goals and relieve some of the stress that come with them. What are some things you like to stay on top of?
It's already the second week of May and I'm sure everyone has been counting down the days until we can find a little more normalcy. My best friend just graduated college, my sister is done with her freshman year, and I'm still pulling out the last four weeks of my junior year online. Maybe counting down the days has made these past few weeks go by quickly or just the desire to be in a different time period. May is usually one of my favorite months because there's some promise for tomorrow and of course, summer.
I think I've embraced this slower pace of life and not having a specific plan for every day. It has been refreshing and humbling. I just feel content and more grateful, there's not much going on, but I thought since I've kept up with the monthly goals, I would stick with it!
01. Slowing it down. Like I said, I've kind of enjoyed having a little bit of a pause and not feeling like I need to keep up with everything. Whether it be with school, my blog, or future plans, I have felt a release from needing to make appointments for everything and checklists to do later. I've seen a change in myself and not having a reliance or need to control everything.
02. Winning an honorable mention. I've mentioned this briefly before, but over the past two semesters, I have been involved in the PRSSA Bateman Competition where over 70 other PRSSA chapters compete and implement a full public relations campaign promoting the 2020 Census. After all of the hard work was done, my team and I were proud to be awarded an honorable mention for our campaign, Love Where You Count. Not to mention the other DePaul team ranked in the top three finalists, this year's competition results made history and heightened DePaul's public relations program. Overall, I am just beyond grateful to have had hands-on PR experience and learning what it is like to be dedicated and passionate about a specific cause and its ability to motivate and encourage change. It will be an experience for the books!
03. Being optimistic. It's easy for me to switch moods and during times like these, I've definitely juggled with my own mentality and being okay with things not being okay this moment in time. I've found ways to put my energy towards my creativity. Sometimes I still have moments of doubt, anxiety, and just sudden waves of overwhelm. I'm sure there's a common feeling of doubt and worry right now, but you're not alone! It's a new month and I'm hopeful that there will be more positive days ahead.
04. More silly moments. Sometimes I'll FaceTime my best friend Lauren and we will just crack up about the dumbest things and it just changes my entire mood that day. Even my sisters and I are either laughing about TikToks or memes. Laughter has been real medicine on gloomier days, so May has been the month of letting go and having a good chuckle.
05. My gardening skills. My project for quarantine was to re-amp our back yard flora with lavender, sweet mint, herbs, and hopefully sunflower that has been sprouting oh-so-slowly, but I think there are sunnier Chicago days ahead. Now that garden stores are open and it's past Mother's Day, I've seen more people out and about trying to spruce up their yards. The trees are blooming and we've seen a few woodland creatures grazing around the neighborhood. Signs of summer are just so promising.
What have you been up to lately?
Check-ins are probably the most important thing keeping me sane right now: family check-ins, mental check-ins, physical check-ins...it's already May and it feels like the beginning of quarantine was forever ago. I have to say keeping a routine has not been very difficult for me lately, probably because it's the one thing that is normal for me. Waking up at an early hour, beginning work, giving myself breaks, and rewarding myself at the end of the day with me-time.
Everyone has their own definition of "self-care," and I think it's important to realize that my version of it is not anyone else's. Sleeping in and choosing not to overload yourself with work is self-care. So is taking a bath, putting on a face mask, or tuning out and listening to a podcast. I think self-care for me has really come down to what I feel most inspired to be doing, whether it be reading or re-reading one of my favorite books.
Lately I have revisited Marie Kondo's The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up, a great way to refresh and reorganize your spaces during this time. I have also been following Reese Witherspoon's Hello Sunshine bookclub, I am currently reading Conviction by Denise Mina. It's a great murder mystery that takes place on a yacht in France and will have you turning the pages!
I have been trying to stay active as much as possible. Whether it be walking the dog, running on the treadmill, or doing some Corepower: Yoga On Demand. There have been many times where I felt unmotivated to exercise, so I just wouldn't. I think it's good to know when you need balance and not feel pressured to workout when you're at home. Corepower also offers some nice meditation videos and I know there are many free ones on YouTube, as well.
Gardening has also been something new I tried—haven't completely failed—but, it has definitely tested me and I think that's because I was so eager to start planting a ton of plants that I never realized that Chicago still becomes winter late at night in the spring. So, all I have to say is that my cilantro is doing great, but my sunflowers will have to make a dire comeback.
Lately I have revisited Marie Kondo's The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up, a great way to refresh and reorganize your spaces during this time. I have also been following Reese Witherspoon's Hello Sunshine bookclub, I am currently reading Conviction by Denise Mina. It's a great murder mystery that takes place on a yacht in France and will have you turning the pages!I have been trying to stay active as much as possible. Whether it be walking the dog, running on the treadmill, or doing some Corepower: Yoga On Demand. There have been many times where I felt unmotivated to exercise, so I just wouldn't. I think it's good to know when you need balance and not feel pressured to workout when you're at home. Corepower also offers some nice meditation videos and I know there are many free ones on YouTube, as well.
Gardening has also been something new I tried—haven't completely failed—but, it has definitely tested me and I think that's because I was so eager to start planting a ton of plants that I never realized that Chicago still becomes winter late at night in the spring. So, all I have to say is that my cilantro is doing great, but my sunflowers will have to make a dire comeback.
Cooper has definitely been thriving with all of the attention and extra play. If there's anyone that has benefited from us staying home, it's him. Funny enough, his main form of entertainment has been bubbles. Emily and I will stand out in the yard and he could jump and catch bubbles all day long. There's something so wholesome about finding joy in the little things.
Self care is crucial at a time like this and it doesn't have to look like whatever spa days and pamper sessions people post online. It could simply be sitting outside and taking in the sunshine. How have you been coping lately?
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